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What Men Should Know About Women

He bought me drinks all evening in response to just a wink. Then accepted my invitation to repair my kitchen sink. Then I brought him into beddy-bye to get a little sex and couldn't help but smile when he called it conquest!

A woman wants a man that she has dreamed about. Someone that isn't real. I don't think that there is anything wrong with a dream only when you turn down reality.
Sandy

We decided to Interview women to find out if they would tell us what they really think about men. We Interviewed over 200 hundred women. The women were asked what men most needed to know about today’s women. The overwhelming answer was that women want to be respected in their own right. The greatest obstacle to having women speak openly was their concern that men would stereotype them if they knew how women really felt. Women seem to feel they still have an uphill battle in that regard. They expressed concerns that if they “did not put a good face on” men would not treat them with the respect they deserve.

INTERVIEWS WITH WOMEN
by Elizabeth Borgia

Lori 45 Years old

Palm Beach Times: What is it that men should know about women?
Lori: That we are humans also
Palm Beach Times: Do men treat women inhumanely?
Lori: Some
Palm Beach Times: How?
Lori: By disregarding them, not treating them as fully human, not all, but many do. For example not attempting to understand
Palm Beach Times: I don’t understand
Lori: Not understanding? Oh, In certain behavior, such as being discourteous and wondering why that is not acceptable
Palm Beach Times: Can you articulate just how men are discourteous?
Lori: By the ignoring of the obvious when there is a topic discussed. To take my opinions seriously or to take into account that I might have a life outside of their experiences with me
Palm Beach Times: Is there an example you can give?
Lori: Example, OK on a date, talking at a party discussing the economy and his ideas are explained. Other men have their views heard but when I begin to talk then there is nearly no interest. If I was someone who did not show any successes in life then I could understand that my views would be of no interest, but I have been very successful
Palm Beach Times: What do you do?
Lori: I am a computer consultant, also an investor.
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell?
Lori: Biggest lie? Many, that they will call you, that they love you, that they think you are unique
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell?
Lori: Biggest we tell? Maybe that the man with me is a wonderful lover or some such
Palm Beach Times: Are most men good lovers?
Lori: No, most assume that doing what comes natural is all that they need to be a good lover. They have no real knowledge of anatomy. None of how women feel and little of timing
Palm Beach Times: Have you ever tried to tell them or do you just hope they can figure it out, are men easier to ‘figure out’?
Lori: Yes. Men are very easy to know that way. A little thought and some observation and you know a man's needs
Palm Beach Times: A woman's are harder.....?
Lori: Yes. I suppose so. I judge that by how easy it is to figure out how best to be with a man and how unusual it is for him to figure out what is best for me
Palm Beach Times: Is there any advice you could give men?
Lori: To listen to a woman. To draw her out on her thoughts
Palm Beach Times: Are women reticent to express their needs?
Lori: I do not know that to be true. If a man does not ask then he does not get the woman's needs. She might say a lot that is not really what she wants. You have to ask and to observe carefully. Then think about the words. How they were said, any body language
Palm Beach Times: Who is smarter men or women?
Lori: We have different mental skills. Mine are good for seeing patterns. And for seeing reactions. Men tend to think more directly, less nuance I think
Palm Beach Times: Thank you very much
Lori: Your welcome

Kelly 31 Years old

Palm Beach Times: What is it that men should know about women
Kelly: A lot oft women, me included, can be very self centered and devious sneaks, but we are loving
Palm Beach Times: That is very candid. If you could give men any advice what would it be? What is the biggest lie women tell?
Kelly: The biggest lie, your the best I have ever had. (Laughing) As far as giving advice I wouldn't even venture there because people are going to do as they wish any way
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest problem women have with men?
Kelly: They are not nearly as understanding as a woman would like them to be. But then some women have a problem with voicing their needs.
Palm Beach Times: Do women still hold men to a higher standard than themselves?
Kelly: I think that most do, hell I do
Palm Beach Times: So equality is just for opportunity for women not responsibility?
Kelly: No I think that we should be as responsible as the men
Palm Beach Times: Then why do you hold men to a higher standard?
Kelly: Because in my life I have always been viewed as weaker so why not play on that from a woman's point of view
Palm Beach Times: So some women are just playing a game with men because it is easier? Now that women are being perceived as equal and assuming that that will be the case will women still try to play on it, is that their nature?
Kelly: Exactly
Palm Beach Times: If men no longer treat women with kid gloves and do not buy into the game would that end it?
Kelly: I think that would be the beginning,it would be a big struggle initially but in the end it would pay off
Palm Beach Times: For women?
Kelly: For both
Palm Beach Times: Do you see that happening any time soon or at all?
Kelly: No
Palm Beach Times: Because...?
Kelly: Because men are too easily manipulated by women and we enjoy it
Palm Beach Times: Why are women so mad at men, or are they?
Kelly: Some are, for this question, I just don’t know, I’m not one of them
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell women?
Kelly: I would have to say your the most beautiful woman in the world
Palm Beach Times: Thank you
Kelly: My pleasure, I enjoyed it.

Ellen 38 Years old

Palm Beach Times: May I ask you some questions?
Ellen: OK
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell men?
Ellen: Size doesn't matter
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell women?
Ellen: I love you
Palm Beach Times: Do women hold men to a higher standard?
Ellen: I'm not sure we hold them to any standard
Palm Beach Times: The point of this article is to have women let their guard down, to that end can you shed any more light on this for us?
Ellen: Honestly, ... we are in a strange time with a lot of gray areas. Men are supposed to be able to be softer, women more independent. In the end it all boils down to the fact that we hide behind a facade. No one wants to be seen as vulnerable and we are all afraid of being hurt
Palm Beach Times: Why are women so angry at men or are they?
Ellen: I can't speak for everyone, but I'm no longer angry with men. I'm just beginning to understand them
Palm Beach Times: What have you learned?
Ellen: That we speak different languages, and that we need to take the time to understand each other. When it comes to attraction, I'm not sure either sex really knows the whys and wherefores
Palm Beach Times: What is that men most need to know about women?
Ellen: That when we come to them with a problem, we need to talk to them about it, but we really don't want them to "fix it."
Palm Beach Times: Why does it upset women when men try to help?
Ellen: Men don't realize that we aren't looking for help, we need to talk about things so we can find our own solutions.
Palm Beach Times: So men should just listen?
Ellen: I've found that when I need to take something to a man for his help, get the help and let him know I appreciate it, he really likes that. More women should let men know they are appreciated. We just don't realize that men think differently and the "talk out" stuff would be better discussed with a female friend. Men and women solve things really differently.
Palm Beach Times: Thank you very much
Ellen: You're welcome

Nicole 26 Years old

Palm Beach Times: May I ask you some questions?
Nicole: Why, for what?
Palm Beach Times: An article in a newspaper
Nicole: I'm a reporter myself so I tend to ask a lot of questions. Tell me what the question is, and ill see if I'll answer it ... umm ... would I have to give my full name?
Palm Beach Times: No, just be honest with the answers
Nicole: OK I can do that as long as they don't get too personal
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell men?
Nicole: "Nothing's Wrong"
Palm Beach Times: Why don't they just tell men what is bothering them?
Nicole: I'm not quite sure, maybe to get them to ask more and to get more interest? I’ve never really understood it myself, I just think that it’s probably a very common lie
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell women?
Nicole: Oh geez ... hmmm .... hard one ... umm coming from experience it’s when they keep saying that its ok when you're around all the time to make you feel better, when they really need some space and don't like to be smothered. I don't know, this is very biased to current issues in my life so who knows, or wait I have a better one, "I don't need anybody to help me"
Palm Beach Times: Do women hold men to a higher standard?
Nicole: Women have a tendency to expect more, does that answer your question?
Palm Beach Times: Yes, what I’m curious about is why women seem to have so much difficulty acknowledging that?
Nicole: Yeah my boyfriend asks me the same question, um ... Do you think that they are reluctant to admit it?
Palm Beach Times: Yes
Nicole: I’ve always been pretty open, but I guess a lot of girls play mind games
Palm Beach Times: Why are so many women angry at men or are they?
Nicole: I don't think they are, it depends who you talk to though. All my best friends are guys and I have a great boyfriend so I think guys are great (Big smile) but that's just me. I’ve always been closer to guys than girls
Palm Beach Times: What is it that men most need to know about women today?
Nicole: Ummm, just to know that they think differently than men and to not always try to instill their way of thinking on to them. For example guys may not need to "talk" or may not need to be told I love you" all the time. But just because they don't need it doesn't mean that a woman doesn't. I am not saying to change, but just to be sensitive to the different needs of women, but in the same respect, women definitely need to do the same for men but that’s not just today that's timeless
Palm Beach Times: What is it that women really do not want men to know?
Nicole: Their weaknesses, but nobody wants people to know that about them
Palm Beach Times: Thank you very much
Nicole: So howd’ I do?
Palm Beach Times: It is not a pass fail test, I appreciate your answering, it was a pleasure
Nicole: My pleasure

Lisa 24 Years old

Palm Beach Times: I'm writing an article for a newspaper, Can I ask you some questions?
Lisa: Sure
Palm Beach Times: What is it men most need to know about women?
Lisa: We are different then them, we have different stimulus
Palm Beach Times: Can you give some examples?
Lisa: We aren't as visual, it's more about feelings to us, guys just have to see something and they are ready
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell men?
Lisa: Can't answer that, I don't lie
Palm Beach Times: Ever?
Lisa: I try not to, can't think of the last time I did
Palm Beach Times: Do women hold men to a higher standard?
Lisa: I don't
Palm Beach Times: Taking the devils advocate role, let’s say you were on ship and it was sinking and a man took the last seat and left you, later after you both survived would you think less of him?
Lisa: Probably, but wouldn't anyone think less of someone who took last seat and left them to die?
Palm Beach Times: Someone has to have the seat. Would you gladly support a man financially?
Lisa: Depends on the situation
Palm Beach Times: No situation, just as way of living
Lisa: No
Palm Beach Times: Why?
Lisa: I believe a relationship has to be equal, if he isn't at least trying to make a living and has no valid reason for not, I wouldn't be with him. I wouldn't support a dead beat
Palm Beach Times: What if he was taking care of the children all day?
Lisa: Isn't that a situation?
Palm Beach Times: Not extenuating, normal day to day affairs
Lisa: But still, it's a life choice, we have kids, I have a job that can support us, we decide that he can stay home with kids, not like he's not working just cause he doesn't want to
Palm Beach Times: So you would support him then?
Lisa: Yes
Palm Beach Times: If a man confides in you that he would prefer you take the lead would that bother you?
Lisa: I don't understand the question?
Palm Beach Times: He tells you the buck stops with you, not him when push comes to shove.
Lisa: He probably wouldn't be my type, but it wouldn't bother me. I don't hold men to a higher standard, but I do pick guys who are confident and secure in there lives. I need the strength and stability that they provide. It doesn't bother me that a guy isn't like that, but I wouldn't be attracted to him. I think we look for significant others that fill in the gaps of our lives
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell women?
Lisa: Sex isn't all I want and that we will support a guy (smiling)
Palm Beach Times: What makes a man a good lover?
Lisa: One who takes his time and is concerned with what I'm feeling
Palm Beach Times: What do women really want?
Lisa: A trusting, happy and fun relationship
Palm Beach Times: Thank you very much
Lisa: No problem

Cindy 29 Years old

Palm Beach Times: I am conducting interviews for an article in a newspaper, may I ask you some questions?
Cindy: Who are you with?
Palm Beach Times: The Palm Beach Times Review
Cindy: I’ll try
Palm Beach Times: What is it that men most need to know about women?
Cindy: A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she's in hot water
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell men?
Cindy: That was great baby (Big Smile) I guess it would have to be the way a woman allows a man to think that he is the king
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell women?
Cindy: I swear I wasn't looking at her.
Are you have going to tell me something about yourself
Palm Beach Times: Do women open up more to women than to men?
Cindy: Men don't want to hear women cry, they don't know what to say to us. It seems as if they are being insensitive. So sometimes yes
Palm Beach Times: Is it that women are concerned that men will perceive them as weak if they tell men their fears?
Cindy: Maybe, yes probably, that and men do the same thing they don't open up to us. What is the title of your article
Palm Beach Times: What men should know about women?
Cindy: May I ask you a question?
Palm Beach Times: Yes
Cindy: Have you not ever felt weak when expressing your most treasured thought with a woman, afraid of how she might perceive you?
Palm Beach Times: Weak, no I have wondered if it would be in my best interest to tell her.
Cindy: I will have to agree with you on one thing, most of my best friends are male. I don't trust women completely. I don't feel like I am in a competition when I talk with men
Palm Beach Times: Do women hold men to a higher standard than women?
Cindy: Explain the question?
Palm Beach Times: Women always say they like sensitive men, but if a man is to sensitive women say they feel like they are relating to another women. They miss the strength of purpose.
Cindy: Sensitive to a point, no one wants someone who can't handle it on his own. Sometimes a woman wants a strong shoulder to lean on
Palm Beach Times: Seems like women hold men to a higher standard, correct me if I am wrong
Cindy: You aren't completely wrong, we are very demanding. A woman wants a man that she has dreamed about. Someone that isn't real. I don't think that there is anything wrong with a dream only when you turn down reality.
Palm Beach Times: What makes a man a good lover?
Cindy: The way he holds the woman afterward
Palm Beach Times: Thank you very much
Cindy: You're welcome. I hope it
helped a little
Palm Beach Times: It did, thank you

Rachel 24 Years old

Palm Beach Times: May I ask you some questions?
Rachel: Ask
Palm Beach Times: What is it that men most need to know about women?
Rachel: That all we want is to be loved
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell men?
Rachel: That we think we look good, I think we are all insecure about are looks
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell women?
Rachel: That they love us
Palm Beach Times: Do women feel more comfortable opening up to other women as opposed to men?
Rachel: No I think, well in my case, I relate to men better. I can open up to them easier. Women just judge each other
Palm Beach Times: Can you explain ...?
Rachel: Well I have more guy friends than girl friends they don't judge me or talk behind my back
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest game women play with or on men?
Rachel: The cat and mouse game
Palm Beach Times: What does a woman get out of that game?
Rachel: Usually nothing in the end we just like to keep em guessing
Palm Beach Times: Because?
Rachel: Don't know just instinct I guess
Palm Beach Times: You seem to be the type that would walk all over a weak man is that true?
Rachel: Sometimes, I don't want a weak man. I want someone who can stand up for himself
Palm Beach Times: Do women hold men to a higher standard than women?
Rachel: What do you mean a higher standard, in what way?
Palm Beach Times: Women never seem to understand this question. Do they expect men to be more in control of their lives than women?
Rachel: I expect a man to know what he wants and how to get it. I also expect him to have somewhat of an idea as to were he will be in his life financially in 10 years. I don't think men expect that from women because they are expected to take care of a woman
Palm Beach Times: Do some women still want a man to take care of them?
Rachel: Well I can't speak for all women, but when I was growing up I knew I wanted to prove to myself that I could make it on my own before I settled down with someone. I was on my own at 19 and now I'm 24 so I think I have proved I can handle taking care of my self. I know I am ready to settle down now, so yes in a way I do expect more out of a man
Palm Beach Times: What do women really want?
Rachel: I can only give you my opinion I cannot answer for all women. What I want is a stable relationship. To know that the man I am with really loves me and not for what I look like or what I do, but for who I am. To know that no matter what he will always be there for me.
Palm Beach Times: Thank you very much

Nell 31 Years old

Palm Beach Times: May I ask you some questions?
Nell: Sure
Palm Beach Times: What is that men most need to know about women?
Nell: That we love attention and to be listened to
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell men?
Nell: I know a lot of women that will say they were satisfied when they weren’t
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell woman?
Nell: When they first met them they may lie about their occupation to impress them
Palm Beach Times: Do women hold men to a higher standard?
Nell: Sometimes we do because they’re supposed to be stronger and to be able to take care of you financially
Palm Beach Times: Why, Is that not a double standard?
Nell: Kind of, but a woman still wants a man with a good Job and being strong is a plus
Palm Beach Times: Why do most women deny that they expect more of men?
Nell: Maybe because they don’t want to look weak, and for so long women were denied equal rights, so they put on a good face for this day and age.
Palm Beach Times: What makes a man a good lover?
Nell: If he is there for you and makes you feel great and is not concerned just with himself
Palm Beach Times: Thank you very much

Jenny 21 Years old

Palm Beach Times: What is it that men should know about women?
Jenny: That women like men who have a sense of humor
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie women tell?
Jenny: That’s assuming we lie
Palm Beach Times: Yes
Jenny: That we’re interested in what ever they like
Palm Beach Times: What is the biggest lie men tell women?
Jenny: Anything to sleep with us
Palm Beach Times: Do women hold men to a higher standard?
Jenny: Higher than what?
Palm Beach Times: Higher than they expect of women?
Jenny: I’m not sure of that one
Palm Beach Times: Do you?
Jenny: I’m not sure, maybe I do
Palm Beach Times: Why do you hold men to a higher standard?
Jenny: I don’t really. They hold women to a lower standard
Palm Beach Times: If men held women to the same standard, would that make women happier or sadder?
Jenny: Maybe sadder
Palm Beach Times: Because?
Jenny: Maybe it would be to rigorous
a standard
Palm Beach Times: Are women angry at men?
Jenny: Some are. I’m not
Palm Beach Times: The ones that are, can you give us some insight as to why?
Jenny: I think they’ve been rejected by men in their life
Palm Beach Times: Everybody gets rejected...?
Jenny: Many women are really fragile, they perceive it as an uphill battle in a mans world
Palm Beach Times: What do you like most about men?
Jenny: That they're not moody mostly
Palm Beach Times: If you could only give one bit of
advice to your son about women what would it be?
Jenny: I'd tell my son to respect them and to be who you are. It is much better to find someone who loves us for our idiosyncrasies, rather than in spite of them.
Palm Beach Times: That is very good advice. Thank you very much
Jenny: You’re welcome

Flirting At Work

"There are some temptations that are so strong they must be virtues"
Charles Boudelaire

Do we flirt at work? Is flirting at work right or wrong? According to some guidelines it can constitute harassment. So what’s really happening in the workplace? Here are the results of a nationwide poll.

FLIRTING HAPPENS -- A LOT...

Fifty-nine percent of you have noticed coworkers flirting. Seventy-two percent of the men we polled have seen female coworkers flirting on duty -- and told us that these women often flirt with them. Nearly half of the women polled (45 percent) claim that their male bosses flirt with them.

...BUT ONLY A THIRD ADMIT TO ACTUALLY DOING IT.

Despite the rampant flirting that occurs in our nation's office buildings, 66 percent of you claim you've never done it. "So who's flirting?" asks Joann Keyton, professor of communication at the University of Memphis. "Either very few people do all the flirting,
or people don't label their own behaviors as flirtatious. This is similar to research on sexual harassment in which people denounce it, deny their own involvement in it, yet say it occurs regularly."

YOU DO, HOWEVER, APPROVE OF FLIRTATIOUS BEHAVIOR.

Four out of ten of you (42 percent) gave blanket permission to flirt at the office. And why not? The reasons you gave were fairly innocent -- "because it's fun" and "just for the sake of flirting" (92 percent). Others said:

* "Flirting makes the other person feel good. If they're having a bad day, you can make them feel better."

* "It's an incentive to come to work."

Others felt it depended on the situation (29 percent), while some puritanical types (9 percent) felt that it was dead wrong, no matter
the situation.

SENDING AN E-MAIL THAT SAYS "I LIKE YOUR SKIRT BUT I WISH IT WERE SHORTER" IS FLIRTING; SMILING IS NOT.

The previous results beg the question: What does one consider "flirting" anyway? We suggested a number of options, and asked if you (a) considered them to be flirtatious and (b) have done them yourself. Most agreed that "cute or suggestive e-mail" was flirting (89 percent), as were "making sexual remarks or innuendos" (80 percent) and "rubbing someone's shoulders" (67 percent). You were on the fence about "wearing tight clothes" (52 percent) and "casual touching" (48 percent). And very few thought "socializing after work" (20 percent), "bringing someone coffee" (14 percent), "stopping by to say hi to someone" (9 percent), or "smiling" (9 percent) were anything to get excited about. But when we asked you to fess up, your actions can best be described as lite Flirting . Most admitted only to "socializing after work" (80 percent), "bringing someone coffee" (78 percent), "stopping by to say hi to someone" (91 percent), and -- gasp! -- "smiling" (96 percent).

BETTER TO SLEEP WITH YOUR COWORKERS THAN FLIRT WITH THEM.

People who flirt at work do so most commonly with their coworkers (56 percent), followed by customers or clients (30 percent), assistants or subordinates (18 percent), and finally (drumroll, please) the boss (9 percent). (See chart on page 63.)

Here are some puzzling results: 71 percent of you said it's okay to date coworkers (and 39 percent actually have). But only 62 percent of you said it's okay to flirt with them. In effect, you're saying it's better to knock boots with Trish from the steno pool than just ogle her You also gave the green light for dating customers or clients (42 percent); 18 percent of you have done it.

* "The man I'm marrying used to be a vendor of mine."

* "I have flirted with clients and gone out on dates. I've ended up having sex, too."

But the real shocker is that 23 percent of you said it was fine to Do the Boss. Isn't this one of the Rules of Life Everybody Agrees Upon? Isn't, Do Not Date The Boss right up there with not tugging on superman’s cape? Apparently not.

* "I got preferential treatment from dating the boss."

* "I was hired as an intern. I started a flirtatious relationship with my female boss, and then we started dating. The whole thing lasted five months, and eight years later she's still one of my best friends."

FLIRTING IS CLEARLY NOT THE WAY TO ADVANCE YOUR CAREER...

Nearly nine out of ten (85 percent) said that "flirting with a superior at work is not an acceptable way to advance one's career."

...WHICH IS NOT TO SUGGEST THAT IT DOESN'T WORK.

Almost half of the people polled (45 percent) said they had seen coworkers receive preferential treatment because they flirted with a superior. Do the ends justify the means?

* "A woman I knew had to bonk her boss to keep her job."

* "This woman was working as a temp, and she wore short skirts with no underwear. She got a job as a tax examiner without taking a civil service exam."

Depends on your point of view I guess

More than one story emerged from the emergency room. Maybe they should rename that show Chicago Hope I Get Laid.

BAD BEHAVIOR?

Interestingly, just about the same percentage who told us that flirting worked (45 percent) told us that they've witnessed behavior across the line from flirting into . . . well, something that crosses the line.

* "I worked in an office where a female coworker would peel a banana suggestively.."

* "A female accountant once came to work without underwear and lifted her skirt, flashing the entire crew."

* "One of my coworkers was caught in a compromising position with a salesman. It was an embarrassment to both. The salesman quit doing business with our company, and we lost millions of dollars' worth of business."

* "My female boss told me I needed a good woman. Then she said, 'I am a good woman,' and tried to put her breasts in my face."

WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH HOSPITALS?

* "Seeing a nurse having an affair with a physician is pretty common."

* "One of the nurses flirted with a doctor, and it broke up the doctor's marriage."

* "One of my students was dating a married doctor. I see those things happen a lot in hospitals. The rumors are true."

SOME OF YOU GOT IN TROUBLE FOR FLIRTING...

Three percent of you admitted to being called on the carpet for cracking one too many "Man From Nantucket" limericks.

* "A coworker and I were sent to sensitivity training, during which we made some comments about a coworker. Well, somebody overheard, and our names were bumped to the top of the troublemakers list."

* "Once, I overhead a coworker worrying about paying her bills. I said if she lost her job, she could hold a sign saying I will work for food. Then I said mine would say I Will Work For Sex. She didn't react until the next day. I got a reprimand from her boss.

...WHILE OTHERS HAD A "PRODUCTIVE" EXPERIENCE.

Over one-quarter (28 percent) of you who've flirted claimed that your behavior resulted in a "successful," "interesting," or "positive" experience.

* "I ended up dating the guy who delivered my office furniture for two and a half months."

* "I look forward to the encounters I have with secretaries at work."

* "It was just a girl I worked with at a hotel. We had major-league flirting going on for months. It started out with subtle jokes and innuendos, then escalated. I took her out to dinner and ended up buying her breakfast."

Finally, 19 percent of the guys said that tight or suggestive clothing was "not appropriate -- I don’t like It" -- and 51 percent said they didn’t notice when a female coworker wore such attire. Liars.

By Sarah Miller Details. Supplemented by The Palm Beach Times

What women really mean! If you hear these reasons, take the hint.

1 "You're to good for me."
Translation: "I'm to good for you. Just don't hang around me so much that you scare away the guy's I really want to date."
2 "It’s getting late, I have to work in the morning:"
Translation: "I don't know why I said yes in the first place"
3 "I only date older men."
Translation: "I only date men whom have more money than you do."
4 "I'm not ready for that type of commitment:"
Translation: "I don't want to date you; however, you can take me out to dinner and a movie every once and a while.
5 "We're to close of friends" / "Your to much like a brother / "You just are not my type."
Translation: "I like you but you just don't turn me on
6 "You'll always have a special place in my heart"
Translation: "My lawyer will contact you soon about the restraining order."
7 "I think we should date other people."
Translation: "Look, I'm late for my date, he's probably in waiting in the parking lot, I've go to go."
8 "Maybe next month"
Translation: "Not even if you were the last man on Earth."